Use and abuse

A lot of people that I have known, and rarely that I keep in touch with, have this bad habit of use and abuse. They are so pally when they want something and then once that is achieved you will never hear from them again. This use and abuse fascinates me. Only because it seems so immature and foolish since you use the pretence of a "friendship" to achive a somewhat selfish goal and move on altogether. Of course, I think I have done this a few times myself; I have conciously tried to avoid it but... However, in the recent past, I have made it a point to only fall back on people who have been mutually fair to me and me to them. This makes it more pleasant eh?

And another thing that irritates me is how people miss the big picture! I mean, I have always focused on winning the war and not the battle. Of course, this is something I endorse/believe that works for me but I absolutely hate it when people focus on the knitty-gritty when they should be thinking much further. I had it worst when I was in the US; of course, there is a whole saga of issues but one of the things that made living with my roommates impossible was how they would simply loathe about the righteousness of things but not live upto any semblance of it. There were plenty of times that I would make the effort to make it more conducive by doing small things - like washing the unclean dishes, clearing out the garbage and so on. Of course, I am a very give-take person partly because I knew I would need them and hoped that they would come through when I did - of course, it never did and things ended up in a real mess. I probably deserved some of the things that happened to me... karma me thinks.